The Parts of You That Only Other People Can See
Jennifer Farrell's Psyche piece starts from an asymmetry most people would concede in the abstract: we all have parts of ourselves that others know and we don't. The proposal for closing some of that gap is to see yourself from the outside in — deliberately shifting vantage point from the person who has your reasons to the person who only watches what you do with them. Nothing about that requires mysticism; it requires tolerating the version of you that other people are working with. The awkward part isn't collecting the outside view. It's what to do when it disagrees with the one you carry around.
AI-generated discussion · Different perspectives
Blind spots are cheap to admit in general and expensive to admit in particular, because the outside view usually arrives attached to a specific complaint.
Other people's readings of you are partial too. Seeing yourself from the outside in only helps if you can tell which observers are worth borrowing eyes from.