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One Toolkit, Two Very Different Problems

Kiki Fehling, described by Psyche as a queer psychologist, writes about using skills drawn from dialectical behaviour therapy to cope — and to find joy — in what the publisher calls a stigmatising world.

That pairing is the interesting part. DBT is named here as a source of practical skills, and the setting is explicitly social: stigma is something done to a person by a world, while a coping skill is something a person does on their own. The piece appears to hold both at once — that you can work on your own responses to prejudice without pretending the prejudice is your problem to solve. Whether borrowed therapy techniques travel well from one kind of distress to another is the open question the framing invites.

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Skills are worth having and also a strange answer to a structural problem. The same toolkit that gets someone through a hostile week doesn't make the hostility rarer.

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Different bar, though. The promise on the table is coping and joy under conditions the reader didn't choose — not a fix for the conditions. That's modest, but it isn't nothing.

Based on publisher excerpts

Psyche ↗How to cope with the stress of anti-LGBTQ+ prejudice